Stop Talking About It!

Not everybody wants to hear about your weight loss. I learned that lesson this week. All I said was that "I get cold now that I've lost..." and the response was "You really have to stop talking about it! We ALL know that you've lost 100 pounds." [eyes rolling at me]

I think about all the people that have been inspired to lose weight because I did talk about it. You can share your story, just know your audience. Lesson learned.

I'm reminded of another lesson about how we respond to others. I do not know who the author is, but I am always touched with the lesson.

There once was a little girl who had a bad temper. Her mother gave her a bag of nails and told her that every time she lost her temper, she must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the girl had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as she learned to control her anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. She discovered it was easier to hold her temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the girl didn’t lose her temper at all. She told her mother about it and the mother suggested that the girl now pull out one nail for each day that she was able to hold her temper. The days passed and the young girl was finally able to tell her mother that all the nails were gone. The mother took her daughter by the hand and led her to the fence.

She said, “You have done well, my daughter, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.”

You can put a knife in a person and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Children are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us.

I want the heart of a child. I want to share words of praise not tear others down.